Competitive society teaches us from a very young age that the most important thing in life is to be a “winner”. To be more, to have more, to do more, to always be in first place, to “arrive” at the place most valued by the social/cultural reference group that guides our values. When this doesn’t happen, being a “loser” brings a feeling of devaluation, of not being “good enough” to deserve not only to be loved or respected by others but, worse still, not giving us the possibility to love and respect ourselves 

Why don’t we think that winning and losing are two inseparable circumstances of the process of learning to live, just as inhaling requires exhaling in the respiratory cycle and diastole requires systole in the cardiac circuit and flexing requires stretching so that the joints produce the movements necessary for muscular agility? 

One of the versions of the etymological origin of the word learn is: “continue or find your way”. Acquiring knowledge, thinking about what I’ve learned, making it my own, seeing how it modifies the way I act, feeling and thinking the information that opens up new ways of understanding the world, help me find the direction I want to give my life and adjust with greater precision the meaning of my life, regardless of whether I’m in the moment of winning or losing because I can always be in the moment of learning to live better.