In between idealization and demonization there is discernment.
An attitude of discernment allows us to find tranquility. Discernment comes from the Latin discernere, meaning to “separate” what is important or true from it is not. discernere, que significa «separar» lo que es importante o verdadero de lo que no.
To discern fosters our capacity to accept and forgive the pain that reality inflicts upon us, while it allows us to be grateful as we realize that even in the hardest moments there is always a helping hand near us.
Discernment rather than rejection allows us to overcome suffering or despair, and to emerge richer, with more integrity and adaptability than we have prior to threatening challenges.